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Re: It’s Not You It’s Me - My Goodbye To Facebook Friends

bigdoginaz — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 13:53:21 -0000

Your friends will help you promote your website and even 500 or fewer people telling their friends who tell their friends is not bad. Since I started telling my friends about my website I have gotten 30% more money from adwords to highereducation.com and I don't even rank. Facebook rocks.

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PatrickForbes — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 13:11:25 -0000

Great article Mr Dale to which I completely agree. I've kept my Facebook account marketing free and using just the way it was intended - for friends and family!

If you want to market to people - twitter away! ;o)

Patrick

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eddale — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 03:40:15 -0000

They don't know unless they go to message you.

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dml1us — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 03:17:30 -0000

my question is the same; i fyou delete people in FB how does it show to them?

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dml1us — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 03:09:39 -0000

I love you explanation my friend, thank you this page has been so useful to me, FB; has been a challenge to learn how to manage your friends, and how to manage all the services that FB has. It is true you need to read and read until you findyour anwers. Like I did now. I still did not find my anwers but it keept my sleep and awake until early hours of the morning. I still would like to know how in the world I can limit the view of my contact to my children. They do it to me and why I cannot do it to them. They only let me see the contacts we have in common. So that is why I got into this mesage board looking for anwers on how to limited the view of my contacts to my children whom they happen to be in my contacts. my email is: If somone have the anwer; I would really appreciate to get some advise. dml1us@aol.com

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StevenEssa — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 15:40:13 -0000

If you delete people from your facebook account,do they get a message about it? how would they know?

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Susie Pitt — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 05:51:29 -0000

Chris nasty! nasty!!! I think I speak for most people when I say Ed Dale has got to be one of the nicest most generous guys on the net.
You sound like a very needy person and I would really take a look at doing a bit of personal development . If you criticise a guy like Ed God help the rest of the world

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Joao B. Lordello Moraes — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 04:19:48 -0000

Ed, the announced Facebook makeover would bring you back?

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eddale — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 16:53:27 -0000

Really excellent article!

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ian david chapman — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:12:49 -0000

Hi Edd,
though some of your readers might appreciate the recent article I wrote concerning this issue, I explain how you can tweak your profile and manage your personal and business contacts at the same time, using a combination of features. Using your segregated lists, managing your newsfeeds and adjusting your privacy setting.

How To Manage Personal Friends And Business Contacts On Facebook - http://budurl.com/5dk5

Re: It’s Not You It’s Me - My Goodbye To Facebook Friends

eddale — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 17:48:24 -0000

Thats a great point Bill- and I suspect that has fuelled it's
extraordinary growth

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Bill — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 17:00:42 -0000

Given me a new perspective of Facebook. I use mainly to meet other gardeners from around the world and people I can learn things from. Facebook has brought a lot of pleasure in my life. With Some of the people I communicate almost on a daily basis.

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eddale — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 17:07:24 -0000

It's going to be super important

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Michael — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 10:00:45 -0000

Did you know there are reportedly 175,000,000 current unique registered users currently on Facebook. Reported by the company to the media within the last week.

May be competition is the real solution

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matc1234 — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 14:57:11 -0000

I think whatever your needs and likes are is what you should use it for . It is different for every one and if your so called friends are offended by you changing oh well that's life. Do what your heart tells you to do.
Cynthia

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Jason — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 11:19:37 -0000

I would love to get your feedback as well on the Twitter Subject...

I first got on it after going through your 30DC course... (bloody awesome by the way!) and was excited to be able to follow the 'gurus' and learn as much as possible...

This excitement soon got swamped by the dozen of here's my newest product launch link (i don't mind the pitches, but can I have content first? lol) , not to mention the 30 'Frank Kern is Now Following You' request I get daily...

Was I a fool to think that I was actually getting to set in on 'inner circle' discussions?

--- On a completely different subject.... Just to let you know that I have an extremely hard time with your videos... now hear me out... I love them! but I'm so distracted by your Bad A amp collection! - Holy (diety of your choice)!!!!

If you haven't checked out the Genz Benz Black Perl I would totally recommend! - I like that better than my Dr. Z... Class A... and with my Gibson SG-Z it bloody screams!

Peace bro...

Another Great Post

Re: It’s Not You It’s Me - My Goodbye To Facebook Friends

eddale — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 21:57:12 -0000

This is a great point for people that have a couple of people a day
want ing to be friends - when it's 1-200 people a day - (I know, I
know poor me!!) its impractical and not something I can outsource.
(Even Tim Ferris would find outsourcing the choosing and grouping of
Friends a bit extreme!!

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PaulCowen — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 19:12:19 -0000

http://www.bartleby.com/141/ - I have heard this is a good book which covers english language well - was written in 1918 and should still be relevant :)

I like what Fred G puts in his books about putting in deliberate typos to keep the pedants happy

TallPaul

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Paul Cowen — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 19:05:30 -0000

I totally agree that if I had 5000 friends there would be too much noise to see the wood for the trees - the information you want to know from the information you don't. I think for some people they feel good about having a large number of "friends". I deal in IT so get to have an idea about how people use facebook as majority of users at majority of my clients have an account. You probably have an 80/20 type ratio for many people where 20% are close friends that get in touch with and 80% are people who they rarely bother to respond to or interested in their status updates.. the larger the number of friends most likely the smaller the percentage of people that person have ever done much apart from perhaps send generic things to in a big group - quizzes, pokes, superpokes, app requests..

I try to bear in mind who the friends are rather than indiscriminately sending en-masse and have set up separate groupings for church friends, online marketers, best friends...

I think it is good to get into the mindset of people using something before rushing in trying to work out how to market to them and then saying "This does not work".

I won't take it personally being unfriended by yourself and find ways to provide value so that experts like yourself would want to genuinely be friends with me on facebook because of the benefit..

Good luck and I'll keep up to date on your blog and fan page..

Paul

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David — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 13:10:07 -0000

Ed you are bang on about facebook, however you may be missing the critical point. If you want to create a group of like minded people, you can do just that. Create a group. Create a group that represents you, your product, your vision, whatever you like. You then have unlimited people that can join the group, and you have the ability to contact them all at will.

People can leave a group just like unsubscribing from an email....

So essentially, you can build a list of targeted people, and have the means to contact them.

The people in the group of full control to leave it or join it at will.

This solves all the problems, you mentioned above, and you can leave the social side of facebook to your friends.

Groups are for business, social can be for friends.

I have also done the same thing and accepted every friend request there is, and you may be right about that, but the above mentioned techniques can remedy the solution and still allows facebook to be a viable marketing solution.

I hope you get to read this Ed, and BTW, I was happy to buy Mass Control from your affiliate link.

I am looking forward to our one on one phone call, for your insight into my business.

Thanks Ed.

You have always given great content. Also love the market samurai. What a nice piece of software!!

David Cheyne

Re: It’s Not You It’s Me - My Goodbye To Facebook Friends

Melissa - Mindful Construct — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 22:51:00 -0000

Great read...this confirms what I have been feeling lately too. Each social media site is its own breed, they are not all alike and if you pretend that they are, you get yourself into trouble by making mistakes that will actually sabotage your marketing/networking/whatever goals - and will also take down your sanity!

Good point about Facebook being for in-person friends, people you have actually met. I cringe at the thought of people I've not met, or at least interacted with meaningfully online, sending me friend requests. It just goes against logic for me -- why would you want to clutter up your feed with other people's stuff that has little to no meaning to you? Not that it can't or it won't ever -- just that "friending" people who are more like strangers than friends is not a very responsible, or healthy thing to do.

I think you are making a smart decision to start over, and good luck!

btw - found this article through a video on thesocialmediasource

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HeatherHavenwood — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 16:00:25 -0000

As far as my facebook account, i have been on it for so long that many of the people that first followed me I don't even know.

However, Twitter seems a bit more fun, and allows one to send messages that people actually hear!

I think this is funny, two nights ago I bought from godaddy www.facebookheather.com Can you believe it was even available?

Heather Ann Havenwood

Re: It’s Not You It’s Me - My Goodbye To Facebook Friends

eddale — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 23:10:23 -0000

Sadly they are beyond me.

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Cyn — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 23:05:17 -0000

Apostrophes (not apostrophe's) and their (not they're) use. Learn them. Love them. Live them. PLEASE.

Re: It’s Not You It’s Me - My Goodbye To Facebook Friends

greenplr — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 19:30:56 -0000

Bless you, Ed Dale! ...for making a case for the value of having a "private" life outside of internet marketing. Making money is wonderful...but money is not the ONLY thing valuable in life. There really IS something of value beyond all-money/all-the-time...friends, family, space and time in which to enjoy them...peace :)